A mom blogger who faced backlash for posting about her “least liked” child on Instagram is speaking out.
Earlier this week, Katie Bower posted a picture of her son on her Instagram page, asking her followers to wish him a happy birthday. While this isn’t out of the ordinary for mom bloggers, Bower continued to tell her followers her son “statistically” performed the worst on her social media page.
“Instagram never liked my Munchkin and it killed me inside. His photos never get as many likes. Never got comments. From a statistical point of view, he wasn’t as popular with everyone out there,” she wrote on her now-deleted post.
“Can we do this right? Because I truly know that my Munch deserves all the likes… whether or not a stranger gives it to him”
Buzzfeed’s deputy director of social news, Stephanie McNeal, tweeted about Bower’s ridiculous comments earlier this week, as well as an update that the Atlanta-based mom had taken down the picture of her son.
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Bower then went on Instagram to address the backlash over video, Buzzfeed reported.
“I had to learn that the likes do not reflect much to me,” she said in her Instagram story. “That I had to choose that, because I work with brands that tell you the opposite. I read an article about how to grow your Instagram that tells you the opposite.”
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One year ago she was on the inside and I was counting down the minutes till I got to meet her. What a ride it had been!!! So many mountain tops and so many low moments too. In that nine months, I said goodbye to my Mummum and still can hear her laughter in my head. The pregnancy made it through the solar eclipse and a tropical storm and about 3000 burritos from McDonalds. My sister in law and my friend both delivered before me (even though they both had later due dates)…which is a tradition for all my pregnancies ❤️ I got a sweet new pup who imprinted on me immediately and still follows me anywhere I go…and I’m pretty sure he misses the bump as a ledge for kisses. I can confidently say that it was the hardest post partum I had experienced…both physically and emotionally but i would have done it 1000000x over just to have my sweet little Ella Violet. And without a doubt, I am so happy that my family has finally felt full and done. It was a hard thing…to say goodbye to pregnancy because I truly believe it is like experiencing a miracle. Sure I t is hard. But also profoundly beautiful even in the pain. And I am overwhelmingly grateful that I got to do it five times…that is more than I ever dreamt of. Baby Ella I love you and I am so so so glad that God chose me to be your mommy. I couldn’t imagine my life without you in it! 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
She denied that she wanted her son to get “likes” on social media but instead, she said she will use the backlash as a learning opportunity.
“Kids know there’s likes on photos and it’s very human nature to compare. So for me, my personal growth journey is teaching my kids it doesn’t matter.”
Social media users react
Many Twitter users pointed out the need of being validated online, especially when you are a parenting blogger.
Others pointed out why they don’t post pictures of their children online altogether.
Posting photos of children online
“I think that social media is here to stay and that carefully thinking about what we post online — especially as it pertains to our kids — is an incredibly important process for parents to go through,” Dr. Jillian Roberts, a child psychologist and associate professor at the University of Victoria told Global News in 2017.
“We need to think through what kinds of images we post and what kind of tone and message we want our social media posts to portray.”
She added whether or not you choose to post pictures of your child online, make sure you discuss online boundaries with other family members — at the end of the day, the majority of these images are public.
“It is a good idea for parents to be a role model for their children. Therefore, it is respectful and sets a good example for parents to ask the child if it’s OK to post something. As the child gets older, encourage him or her to do the same when they engage in their own social media activity.”
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